STOP THE ABUSE!

What happens to people who are abused on a regular basis? Sooner or later they reach a limit, but there's no telling what that limit may be. Usually victims become either apathetic or hostile. That's what happens. Read the newspapers, you are going to find it filled with the apathetic or hostile things people do. Look around, we are bursting at the seams with hostility - road rage, violence in the workplace, violence in the schools, and abuse at home. Or we apathetically turn to our addictions (alcohol, drug, sex, work etc). How many of us anesthetize ourselves with food, for instance?

In so many cases of abuse, the abuser stop the abuse when the victim strikes back. Abuse is all about bullying and being able to get away with bullying or pushing someone around who is deemed weaker (or in the workplace deemed a subordinate). I choose to call it bullying because it is immature. The bullying is contagious. The president bullies the vice president who bullies the director who bullies the middle manager who bullies the employee who bullies the spouse who bullies the kid who kicks the dog who chases the cat who tortures the mouse. You can bully (abuse) someone verbally or physically and even sexually. You can bully people by making up unfair rules; taking money from them (legally or illegally); holding their job over their head; making them jump through unnecessary hoops to get a mortgage; writing lease in difficult language that is all to your advantage; charging exorbitant interest, charging high gas prices on the turnpike and overcharging them for food at the airports, sporting event and captive places. The abuse/bullying/victimizing is all about power and or money.

Some nasty people love the power trips knowing they can hurt you if they want to, using any and all tactics just to feel better or more powerful than you.

In actuality, though nasty individual don't pose the biggest problem in today's society. Infact, we can learn what tactics they use and why they use them (power/dominance/the game), but that is only half the solution. Gone are those days of the mom-and-pop stores where we could walk in and speak to the owners directly about any problems we had with such and such acts or even services. The hardest part is you hardly know who made up the process to victimize you. Because they are people behind the scenes known as the untouchables. They normally have people working for them - the "unjustables" and are just as brutal as the untouchable. They take authority but claim no responsibility for it. They are those that say, "i am just doing my job".The power of knowing who they are and doing something about it - make them accountable, make sure there was justice, and make sure nobody else would be victimised in the future.