PREMATURELY ENDING YOUR CAREER AIMS!

Success breeds success. You gain courage and confidence from doing the things you think you cannot do. The problem encountered by many people is that they often allow others to side-track from their early dreams and career goals.

Women’s lives unlike men’s are not linear but rather constantly shifting. Our lives not only take new direction, partly because of the extension of our years of health and productivity. It’s this redirection that gets in our ways of making plans and pursuing them through to completion.

Rather than completely abandon your career goals when life throws you a curve, come up with a strategic life plan that allows you to keep abreast of developments in your field.

Consider the importance of further intellectual knowledge not only to your success, but to your self -confidence, as well. Even if you don’t need it for work, do you want it for you?

When others attempt to derail you from your path, look at it as normal, but don’t give in to it. When any system changes, whether it’s a political system, an ecological system, or family system, the system tends to want to maintain its equilibrium by going back to the status quo. Guess what? People are used to the status quo being your putting needs on a back burner and if they had their preferences, they would keep it that way.

If you decide to be a stay at home mum for a while, remain involved with your field through participation in professional associations or courses. You can also volunteer to do work in your field of interest that will allow you access to the technology and equipment you will need when you return to work.

Diplomatically let people realise that you don’t like being a scape goated. If its important to you, don’t accept less than you deserve without a fight. There are times when it won’t be worth winning the battle only to lose the war, but there will be others when the principle matters. Use the broken record to counter claim of fait accompli. Like a record with a scratch, you repeat your concerns, using different words, as many times as necessary to engage a discourse. Even though, we know that broken record doesn’t always yield the desired results, but it sure gives you a good shot at it especially if you do it without anger or decision.