DON’T PUT A LIMIT ON YOUR DREAMS!

What about a disability that seem to negate all your dreams: something you simply can’t do, but really want to be able to do? As most of us realise, the proper attitude towards ourselves

is called "good self esteem". But self-esteem

is an art. An art of balance. A balance between thinking too little of ourselves and thinking too much of ourselves.

The name for think too much of ourselves is "egotism". We have all run into that, at some point in our lives, so we know what it looks like. Some of us have even caught a passing glimpse of it in the mirror.

In our culture and many others, we are taught to recoil from this horror. We even have mythologies warning us against it.

In order to avoid egotism, a lot us go way overboard in other direction. We shrink from ever declaring that we have any virtue, any excellency, any special gifts, lest we be accused of boasting. And so we fall into that opposite pit from egotism, namely ingratitude. We appear ungrateful for the gift that life, the universe, God - you name it - has already given us.

So, how do we adopt the proper attitude toward our gifts - speaking of them real, honestly, humbly, gratefully, - without sounding egotistical? just this: the more you see your own gifts clearly, the more you must pay attention to the gifts that others have. The more sensitive you become sensitive to how unusual those around you are. The more you pay attention to yourself the more you must pay attention to others. The more you ponder the mystery of you, the more you must ponder the mystery of all those you encounter, every loved one, every friend, every acquaintance, every stranger.

Self esteem is an art. It is the art of balance. A balance between thinking too little of ourselves and thinking too much of ourselves. But we can only think too much of ourselves if we lose sight of others. Look at yourself, but equally look at them.

That is the proper attitude we all should set our goal. A good example of self - esteem is a precondition for salary negotiation. You cannot just set some monetary target for salary negotiation. You believe you are genuinely worth that salary or that salary range.